Growing up with emotionally immature parents shapes your love life in profound ways.
You become so accustomed to rejection, abandonment, and neglect that you start seeing it everywhere.
It also means that actual mistakes or missteps by a partner can feel earth-shattering. Your body doesn’t just react—it files those moments in the same category as the traumas you’ve already lived through.
Of course, this doesn’t mean our partners are off the hook, but it does mean we have to ask ourselves: how much of this is about now—and how much is tied to what we’ve carried from the past?
This is why individual therapy (or working with a *skilled* coach) really matters. It’s not just about processing your pain—it’s about learning to untangle what’s happening in the present day from past wounds so that you can actually build the clarity needed for healthy love 💕
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You become so accustomed to rejection, abandonment, and neglect that you start seeing it everywhere.
It also means that actual mistakes or missteps by a partner can feel earth-shattering. Your body doesn’t just react—it files those moments in the same category as the traumas you’ve already lived through.
Of course, this doesn’t mean our partners are off the hook, but it does mean we have to ask ourselves: how much of this is about now—and how much is tied to what we’ve carried from the past?
This is why individual therapy (or working with a *skilled* coach) really matters. It’s not just about processing your pain—it’s about learning to untangle what’s happening in the present day from past wounds so that you can actually build the clarity needed for healthy love 💕
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Trauma has this way of freezing you in time; stuck at the age when it all happened—still bracing for impact, still waiting for someone to step in and make it all okay.
That’s why you might feel small and powerless, even in moments that aren’t dangerous at all.
This is where the pause comes in.
Feel your feet on the floor. Take a breath. Say your name. Say your age. Slowly remind yourself: ‘I’m safe. I’m here. That place can’t touch me anymore.’
For some of us, the safety and comfort we longed for as kids are finally here. Part of healing is helping our inner child see and feel that truth.
Healing isn’t about forgetting the past—it’s about teaching yourself, over and over again, that you’re no longer trapped in it.
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#cptsdhealing
#complextrauma #complexptsdrecovery
#complextpsdawareness
#ptsd #ptsdsupport #cptsdawareness #complexptsd
#ptsdawareness
#emotionalneglect #healingfromtrauma
#traumarecovery
#childhoodtrauma #traumahealing source
That’s why you might feel small and powerless, even in moments that aren’t dangerous at all.
This is where the pause comes in.
Feel your feet on the floor. Take a breath. Say your name. Say your age. Slowly remind yourself: ‘I’m safe. I’m here. That place can’t touch me anymore.’
For some of us, the safety and comfort we longed for as kids are finally here. Part of healing is helping our inner child see and feel that truth.
Healing isn’t about forgetting the past—it’s about teaching yourself, over and over again, that you’re no longer trapped in it.
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.
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#cptsdhealing
#complextrauma #complexptsdrecovery
#complextpsdawareness
#ptsd #ptsdsupport #cptsdawareness #complexptsd
#ptsdawareness
#emotionalneglect #healingfromtrauma
#traumarecovery
#childhoodtrauma #traumahealing source
Of course you're exhausted.
You’re the only one in the room doing the work—the only one noticing patterns, choosing your words carefully, and holding yourself accountable.
That kind of self-awareness is taxing, especially when no one else is meeting you there.
(Your nervous system wasn’t built to carry the emotional labor of an entire room).
So if you need more space, more quiet, fewer calls—take it.
Because healing isn’t about convincing anyone else to do their work or enduring their pain for the sake of it.
It’s about creating space for yourself because you’re choosing to show up for you REGARDLESS of what they do.
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#cptsdhealing
#complextrauma #complexptsdrecovery
#complextpsdawareness
#ptsd #ptsdsupport #cptsdawareness #complexptsd
#ptsdawareness
#emotionalneglect #healingfromtrauma
#traumarecovery
#childhoodtrauma #traumahealing
#childhoodtraumasurvivor #intergenerationaltrauma
#ptsd
#ptsdwarrior #childhoodabuse #traumabonding
#sexualabuse #dissociation #traumasurvivor source
You’re the only one in the room doing the work—the only one noticing patterns, choosing your words carefully, and holding yourself accountable.
That kind of self-awareness is taxing, especially when no one else is meeting you there.
(Your nervous system wasn’t built to carry the emotional labor of an entire room).
So if you need more space, more quiet, fewer calls—take it.
Because healing isn’t about convincing anyone else to do their work or enduring their pain for the sake of it.
It’s about creating space for yourself because you’re choosing to show up for you REGARDLESS of what they do.
.
.
.
#cptsdhealing
#complextrauma #complexptsdrecovery
#complextpsdawareness
#ptsd #ptsdsupport #cptsdawareness #complexptsd
#ptsdawareness
#emotionalneglect #healingfromtrauma
#traumarecovery
#childhoodtrauma #traumahealing
#childhoodtraumasurvivor #intergenerationaltrauma
#ptsd
#ptsdwarrior #childhoodabuse #traumabonding
#sexualabuse #dissociation #traumasurvivor source
Tumblr user raddagher:
Idgaf if you don't want to write essays for school. I don't care if you don't want to write corporate emails yourself. I don't care if you can't draw well, I don't care if you can't write well, I don't care if you just really really want to talk to your favorite fictional character but don't want to RP with a real person because you have social anxiety or whatever
If you're still regularly using generative ai, chatgpt or midjourney or character.ai or literally whatever the fuck, im personally blaming you when my utility prices start going up.
Tumblr user jay-wasreblogging:
Why would utility prices go up because of ai?
(I am not defending the usage of generative AI/ChatGPT/Character.ai etc etc i am very much against it - I am just curious as to the correlation between using it and utility price surge please don't come at me this is a genuine question)
Tumblr user raddagher:
Happy to help. source
Idgaf if you don't want to write essays for school. I don't care if you don't want to write corporate emails yourself. I don't care if you can't draw well, I don't care if you can't write well, I don't care if you just really really want to talk to your favorite fictional character but don't want to RP with a real person because you have social anxiety or whatever
If you're still regularly using generative ai, chatgpt or midjourney or character.ai or literally whatever the fuck, im personally blaming you when my utility prices start going up.
Tumblr user jay-wasreblogging:
Why would utility prices go up because of ai?
(I am not defending the usage of generative AI/ChatGPT/Character.ai etc etc i am very much against it - I am just curious as to the correlation between using it and utility price surge please don't come at me this is a genuine question)
Tumblr user raddagher:
Happy to help. source