原文：
"It is a moral necessity that we not be forced to bring children into the world for whom we cannot be responsible and adoring and present. We must not inflict life on children who will be resented; we must now inflict unwanted children on society."
Anne Lamott
翻譯：
「出於道德上的必要性，我們不應該被迫將孩子帶到這個世界上，尤其當我們無法愛護、陪伴，並負起照顧孩子的責任。我們不應該將生命強加於孩子身上，讓他們帶著怨恨長大；我們不應該將不被想要的孩子強加於社會。」
安·拉莫特
連結：
https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=1087775272736023&set=a.431991091647781 source
"It is a moral necessity that we not be forced to bring children into the world for whom we cannot be responsible and adoring and present. We must not inflict life on children who will be resented; we must now inflict unwanted children on society."
Anne Lamott
翻譯：
「出於道德上的必要性，我們不應該被迫將孩子帶到這個世界上，尤其當我們無法愛護、陪伴，並負起照顧孩子的責任。我們不應該將生命強加於孩子身上，讓他們帶著怨恨長大；我們不應該將不被想要的孩子強加於社會。」
安·拉莫特
連結：
https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=1087775272736023&set=a.431991091647781 source
Growing up, Chloe*, 37, watched her mother’s neediness, outbursts, and refusal to take responsibility. She swore: I’ll never be like that.
So she did the opposite—stayed independent, kept it together, and worked harder than anyone. On the outside, she was crushing it. Big career. Full schedule. A reputation for being the one who always figured it out.
But the fear never left her: "What if I’m just like her?"
Through our coaching work, Chloe realized her entire life had been shaped by the need to prove she wasn’t her mother. But in trying so hard to be different, she lost sight of who she actually was. Her independence wasn’t freedom—it was fear. Her success wasn’t fulfillment—it was avoidance.
Together, we worked together to untangle the difference between rejecting her mother’s behaviors and actually building her own identity. Slowly, she learned to make choices based on what she actually wanted—not just as a reaction to the past. source
So she did the opposite—stayed independent, kept it together, and worked harder than anyone. On the outside, she was crushing it. Big career. Full schedule. A reputation for being the one who always figured it out.
But the fear never left her: "What if I’m just like her?"
Through our coaching work, Chloe realized her entire life had been shaped by the need to prove she wasn’t her mother. But in trying so hard to be different, she lost sight of who she actually was. Her independence wasn’t freedom—it was fear. Her success wasn’t fulfillment—it was avoidance.
Together, we worked together to untangle the difference between rejecting her mother’s behaviors and actually building her own identity. Slowly, she learned to make choices based on what she actually wanted—not just as a reaction to the past. source
Every part of you is welcome here.
No piece of you is too much, too overwhelming, too needy, or too shameful. Not for me.
Yes, your parents made you believe otherwise. They taught you to shrink yourself, to keep it all in.
But that was never your fault. That was never about you.
Healing with me means reclaiming those parts—the scared, the shamed, the dramatic, the “too much,” the “not enough.”
It means seeing every part of you as worthy of love. It means finally knowing, from the inside out, that you are good enough, regardless of what others say or do.
I am so sorry someone made you believe otherwise, Beloved ❤️
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#cptsdhealing
#complextrauma #complexptsdrecovery
#complextpsdawareness
#ptsd #ptsdsupport #cptsdawareness #complexptsd
#ptsdawareness
#emotionalneglect #healingfromtrauma
#traumarecovery
#childhoodtrauma #traumahealing
#childhoodtraumasurvivor #intergenerationaltrauma
#ptsd
#ptsdwarrior #childhoodabuse #traumabonding source
No piece of you is too much, too overwhelming, too needy, or too shameful. Not for me.
Yes, your parents made you believe otherwise. They taught you to shrink yourself, to keep it all in.
But that was never your fault. That was never about you.
Healing with me means reclaiming those parts—the scared, the shamed, the dramatic, the “too much,” the “not enough.”
It means seeing every part of you as worthy of love. It means finally knowing, from the inside out, that you are good enough, regardless of what others say or do.
I am so sorry someone made you believe otherwise, Beloved ❤️
.
.
.
.
.
#cptsdhealing
#complextrauma #complexptsdrecovery
#complextpsdawareness
#ptsd #ptsdsupport #cptsdawareness #complexptsd
#ptsdawareness
#emotionalneglect #healingfromtrauma
#traumarecovery
#childhoodtrauma #traumahealing
#childhoodtraumasurvivor #intergenerationaltrauma
#ptsd
#ptsdwarrior #childhoodabuse #traumabonding source
Growing up with emotionally immature parents shapes your love life in profound ways.
You become so accustomed to rejection, abandonment, and neglect that you start seeing it everywhere.
It also means that actual mistakes or missteps by a partner can feel earth-shattering. Your body doesn’t just react—it files those moments in the same category as the traumas you’ve already lived through.
Of course, this doesn’t mean our partners are off the hook, but it does mean we have to ask ourselves: how much of this is about now—and how much is tied to what we’ve carried from the past?
This is why individual therapy (or working with a *skilled* coach) really matters. It’s not just about processing your pain—it’s about learning to untangle what’s happening in the present day from past wounds so that you can actually build the clarity needed for healthy love 💕
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You become so accustomed to rejection, abandonment, and neglect that you start seeing it everywhere.
It also means that actual mistakes or missteps by a partner can feel earth-shattering. Your body doesn’t just react—it files those moments in the same category as the traumas you’ve already lived through.
Of course, this doesn’t mean our partners are off the hook, but it does mean we have to ask ourselves: how much of this is about now—and how much is tied to what we’ve carried from the past?
This is why individual therapy (or working with a *skilled* coach) really matters. It’s not just about processing your pain—it’s about learning to untangle what’s happening in the present day from past wounds so that you can actually build the clarity needed for healthy love 💕
—- source